Why you need to learn how to fight in a relationship (w/ Dr. Julie and John Gottman)

“All couples fight. In fact, how they fight in the first three minutes predicts with 96% accuracy not only how the rest of the conversation will go, but how the rest of the relationship will go six years down the road,” says relationship expert Dr. Julie Gottman. Dr. Julie and John Gottman are founders of the Gottman Institute and the Love Lab where they study how to sustain love and health in relationships. They join Chris to discuss why more people now than ever are deciding to go solo, what a healthy end to a conflict looks like, and the 52 questions you should ask your partner before getting married. This episode is part of a series of bonus videos from "How to Be a Better Human." You can watch the extended video companion on the TED YouTube Channel and the extended interview on the TED Audio Collective YouTube Channel. Watch Julie and John answer listeners' questions: https://youtu.be/nJ4RtT0T_BA Extended interview with Chris: https://youtu.be/CxW0JRAw8bk Follow Host: Chris Duffy (Instagram: @chrisiduffy | https://chrisduffycomedy.com/) Guest: Dr. Julie and John Gottman Links Humor Me by Chris Duffy (https://t.ted.com/ZGuYfcL) https://www.gottman.com/ Instagram: @thegottmaninstitute YouTube: @TheGottmanInstitute Linkedin: @the-gottman-institute TikTok: @thegottmaninstitute Follow TED!  X: https://www.twitter.com/TEDTalks Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ted Facebook: https://facebook.com/TED LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/ted-conferences TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@tedtoks  Podcasts: https://www.ted.com/podcasts For the full text transcript, visit go.ted.com/BHTranscripts Interested in learning more about upcoming TED events? Follow these links: TEDNext: ted.com/futureyou Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.