The Paradox of Help: Safety, Shame & Belonging (S18E04)

Why do we sometimes refuse help, even when it might be exactly what we need? In this episode I explore what happens when we’re feeling sensitised, sensitive, activated or triggered - and why even a simple offer of support can feel like a threat. Together we look at the patterns that sit beneath our instinct to say no: the way our nervous system tries to keep us safe, how dignity and self-concept can override our needs, and why vulnerability can feel so exposing. And we explore the other side too - how accepting help can soothe the body, build trust, and deepen our sense of belonging. This episode feels particularly important in our current times. A chance to build and deepen awareness of our ourselves and others. If you enjoy it, please share it. With love, Henny COMING UP Immerse in The Heart of Change - a year-long programme of compassionate self-enquiry There are just 2 spaces left for this group-coaching journey. We begin 10 October 2025. Free 60-minute Discovery Call I have space for 3 new 1-to-1 clients beginning in October - book a call if you'd love to explore how it could be to work together as you make and manage your own changes. ***** Would you love to find A piece of quiet? Every Wednesday, take 20-minutes to pause with this calming reflective audio practice. As a listener to the podcast, use the code PEACE for 20% off your first year. Join the mailing list Sign up to stay connected for occasional weekly emails on change and compassionate self-enquiry   Sign-up here to receive everyday compassion Tiny email reminders of self-love and presence, delivered (free) three times a week. Visit the library Explore tools for inner connection and compassionate growth. Books, Journaling Resources & Self-paced Courses ★ Support this podcast ★