#45 Lewis Howes on What Makes A Real Man

What does it mean to be masculine? In his fascinating new book, best-selling author, speaker, and high-performance coach Lewis Howes asks this very question.Whether it’s the jock, the playboy, or the fighter, Lewis breaks down the different masks that men unknowingly wear to hide their authentic selves. Watch “The School of Greatness” host discuss masculinity, vulnerability, and authenticity in this eye-opening episode of Impact Theory with Tom Bilyeu. Buy the Mask of Masculinity Here: http://amzn.to/2yZ5sfT PULLED QUOTES 1.“The things I do are pretty simple; I just do them over and over again.” [2:58] 2.“I try to constantly do things that put me out of a box, that make me uncomfortable, and that challenge me.” [5:07] 3.“I think at our core that’s our deepest fear --that we’re not going to feel love from someone.” [22:26] 4.“The more I do the uncomfortable, it becomes comfortable.” [28:36] 5.“The definition of masculinity is living in service.” [38:00] 6.“I feel like if we’re not getting feedback then we think we know it all.” [41:04] 7.“I believe the greatest leaders in the world know how to understand where any person is coming from and can connect and communicate on their level as opposed to expecting that person to connect and communicate on the leader’s level.” [47:14] SHOW NOTES Tom and Lewis talk about masculine vulnerability and how a fight changed his life. [5:05] Lewis shares when he discovered that he was wearing masks and how he learned to forgive. [11:26] Lewis breaks down different types of masks and overcoming the fear of being perfect. [13:27] Lewis talks about using masks to our advantage and knowing when it’s time to take it off. [17:07] Tom and Lewis deconstruct the process that draws a line between masks and authenticity. [19:20] Lewis reveals the question he used to start every conversation and what waits on the other side. [21:53] Lewis describes practical steps that you can usedto identify and remove masks in your life. [26:13] Tom and Lewis dive into the comfort of wearing masks and how they are created. [29:36] Lewisgives society’s definition of a “real man” and being educated by powerful women. [34:13] Lewis offers his definition of real masculinity and the basis of self-love. [37:56] Lewis explains how he ranks priorities in his life. [40:05] Lewis clarifies why he tailored a section for women in his book about masculinity. [43:25] Tom and Lewis discuss connectivity at every level and creating meaningful conversation and change. [45:51] Lewis reveals the three truths that are essential to creating your best life. [49:00] Lewis defines the impact that he wants to have on the world. [51:18] MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE BOOKS The School of Greatness: A Real-World Guide to Living Bigger, Loving Deeper, and Leaving a Legacy by Lewis Howes: http://amzn.to/2xuckyh [1:30] The Mask of Masculinity by Lewis Howes: http://amzn.to/2yZ5sfT [2:01] PEOPLE Dale Die -http://bit.ly/2yZZLin [45:00] Randy Couture -http://bit.ly/2yG9Bmo [45:03] SHOWS Lewis Howes on Ellen -Part 1 -http://bit.ly/2oR1z49 Lewis Howeson Ellen -Part 2 -http://bit.ly/2yzCumF Lewis Howessalsa dancing -http://bit.ly/1FUm9rC FOLLOW LEWIS HOWES INSTAGRAM: http://bit.ly/2gBczV1 TWITTER: http://bit.ly/1T6F5bq FACEBOOK: http://bit.ly/2tgJouE LINKEDIN: http://bit.ly/2zDI9WN WEBSITE: http://bit.ly/2yYv50W PODCAST: http://bit.ly/1UTi4tE