Kute Blackson: Accept, Grieve, and then Surrender to Recover from Burnout

Kute Blackson is an inspirational speaker and transformational teacher. He is a member of the Transformational Leadership Council, a group of 100 of the world’s foremost authorities in the personal development industry. He learned about the power and the magic of surrender when his mother was diagnosed with stomach cancer and his time with her became more precious than ever before.    Surrender is a powerful tool for transformation and is an important part of burnout recovery. Humans are naturally hardwired to surrender, but as we grow up, we become resistant to it. We tend to forget that the ego is simply a pattern of behavior and not actually who we truly are. When we mistake ego for personal identity, surrender can feel like death instead of being seen for what it really is, a chance to let go and fully accept life for what it is.    Resisting surrender is exhausting and can lead to burnout. When we fully accept surrender for what it is, we can grieve and then move forward. Tune into today’s episode of FRIED. The Burnout Podcast for a conversation with Kute Blackson about the magic of surrender.   Quotes • “When I began to surrender and accept that she may not live, maybe this is it, it’s as though it transformed me because every moment became sacred.” (7:08-7:22 | Kute) • “It was so profound, because I would sit in chemo sessions with my mother holding her hand in such gratitude for this moment that I had with her. I would sit in the park with her, all the things that I deemed a waste of time, because I was busy saving the planet, that I didn't have time to just sit and take a walk in the park with my mother because it was just not productive was so precious for the first time like it could be the last moment. And so the process of surrendering transformed my relationship to the moment, my relationship to her.” (7:47-8:23 | Kute)  • “Surrender is the most powerful thing that we can do as human beings.” (11:58-12:01 | Kute) • “Surrender is when we stop trying to force or manipulate life to fit our limited idea of how we think it should be and how we think a relationship should be. It's letting go of who we think we should be, and how we think life should be so that we take the limitations off of life so that we can be truly open and available to the highest unfolding that is seeking to happen.” (15:08-15:37 | Kute) • “When we surrender, that’s when the magic happens.” (15:44-15:47 | Kute)  • “Surrender is our natural state. That's what I just want people to get. Surrender is in fact hardwired into our physiology.” (24:10-24:19 | Kute) • “Surrender is a death and when we allow ourselves to fully, fully, fully accept, then we can fully grieve. And when we fully grieve that’s when we're able to let go.” (41:10-41:21 | Kute)   Links   https://bearaby.com   Connect with Kute Blackson: Website: www.kuteblackson.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kuteblackson/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kute-blackson-35755519/ Book:  www.themagicofsurrender.com   XOXO, C   If you know that it’s time to actually DO something about the burnout cycle you’ve been in for too long - book your free consult today: bit.ly/callcait   https://friedtheburnoutpodcast.com/quiz   Podcast production and show notes provided by HiveCast.fm