Episode #55: Therapy Is Hard Work - Why It Hurts But Heals

In this solo episode, I get brutally honest about what therapy should actually accomplish - and spoiler alert: it's not about making you feel warm and fuzzy. Inspired by a candid conversation with a long-term client who's been seeing me for 8 years, I break down the real reasons people invest in therapy and why so many are doing it wrong. I'll walk you through: ✅ Why objectivity matters more than validation (and why your therapist shouldn't be your cheerleader) ✅ How accountability in therapy creates lasting change versus endless venting sessions ✅ The uncomfortable truth about why real growth requires sitting in your hurt ✅ Why prevention is key - and how therapy is like preventive medicine for your emotional health ✅ The difference between a therapist and your grandmother (hint: one should challenge you) ✅ How our "me-first" culture is destroying relationships and why therapy should push back against that I also dive into the modern distractions we use to avoid looking at ourselves - from endless scrolling to background noise - and why being comfortable with silence is crucial for real self-awareness. Whether you're considering therapy, currently in therapy, or wondering why your sessions aren't creating change, this episode will challenge how you think about the therapeutic process. 🔔 Remember: Real therapy isn't about feeling good in the moment - it's about becoming the person who can love your neighbor as yourself, even when it's hard. If you're ready for a therapist who won't just appease you, I'm accepting new clients. But fair warning - we're going to do the uncomfortable work together. ============================================================================ As mentioned in this episode, here are the links to some of the interviews I had with past clients: Client Interview: Stop Lying to Yourself  Life After an Affair: A Past Client's Journey Through Betrayal A Client's Journey Towards Self-Love and Using Prayer Intentionally Releasing Yourself from a Toxic Relationship: Conversations from the Couch