E.197 Mental Men: Trauma, Grief, and Healing

Send us a text Trauma lies at the heart of most psychological suffering, yet our understanding of it continues to evolve. In this profound conversation with the returning "Mental Men" panel of experienced therapists, we explore how mental health treatment has transformed from psychoanalysis that sometimes minimized real trauma to approaches that honor lived experiences and their lasting impacts. When Dr. Christopher Gordon underwent psychoanalysis in the 1970s, the prevailing theory suggested psychological problems stemmed from internal conflicts rather than actual traumatic events. "We paid really little attention to actual trauma," he reflects, noting how profoundly this limited understanding affected treatment. Bob Cherney captures the persistent nature of unaddressed trauma with the striking metaphor of "an infection in the soul that festers" when not properly addressed. The conversation explores grief as a universal human experience that our culture frequently mishandles. We expect people to "move on" within weeks of significant losses, when truly processing grief requires much longer. As Pat Rice eloquently states, "If you live long, you"ll have to say goodbye a lot"—pointing to how aging inevitably brings accumulated losses that need ongoing attention rather than quick resolution. Perhaps most compelling is the discussion around strength versus vulnerability. "Strength is asking for help," challenges traditional masculine norms of stoicism. The therapists explore how protective parts develop to shield individuals from vulnerability but often prevent necessary healing. For first responders who witness what "95% of people never see," this conflict becomes particularly acute as they struggle to maintain professional composure while carrying enormous emotional burdens. The Mental Men celebrate those breakthrough therapeutic moments when clients suddenly recognize patterns that have eluded them—what Andy Kang describes as seeing "the pilot light of hope come on again." These moments, as Dennis Sweeney remind us,  is why addressing trauma matters so deeply: healing becomes possible when we honor both wounds and resilience. Freed.ai: We’ll Do Your SOAP Notes! Freed AI converts conversations into SOAP note.Use code Steve50 for $50 off the 1st month! Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you. Support the show YouTube Channel For The Podcast