874 | The Day I Stopped Chasing and Started Leading

In this episode, I share my thoughts on the common tendency to chase after goals—reaching a new income level, achieving a sold-out offer, or becoming the version of ourselves we aspire to be. I emphasize that instead of chasing these external validations, we should focus on becoming the person who embodies those goals. Chasing often stems from a place of lack, where we seek external validation to feel worthy. I share stories of individuals who achieved their goals only to find that they still felt unfulfilled, highlighting the importance of internal validation. Throughout the episode, I explore leading from identity rather than chasing lack. I discuss how our nervous systems can become anxious when we feel we are not enough, leading to a constant state of seeking safety and validation. I encourage listeners to reflect on their definitions of success and safety and how these beliefs shape their actions. HIGHLIGHTS 00:01:00 - The Commonality of Feelings 00:02:00 - Shifting from Chasing to Becoming 00:03:00 - Understanding Internal Safety 00:04:00 - Signs of Chasing from Lack 00:05:00 - Reinforcing Identity vs. Lack 00:06:00 - The Power of Feeling Safe to Receive 00:07:00 - Future Pacing and Visualization 00:08:00 - Leading from the Inside Out Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster Download “You Are Supported” Hypnosis and Subliminal Bundle HERE  Join the next cohort of OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification (kick-off in March 2025) HERE Learn more about changing the Stories We Tell Ourselves Digital Program HERE. Use Code PODCAST to receive 20% off. Code FASTACTION20 Tap the “Follow” button to never miss a show, and if you love the show, please feel free to tag me on social media, share it with a friend, or leave me a rating and review. This really helps the show grow! Website: www.marshavanw.com Connect on IG click HERE Subscribe on YouTube click HERE