296. How we heal: Rethinking attachment through the lens of AEDP with Dr. Diana Fosha and Karen Pando Mars

In this episode, the creator of AEDP, Dr. Diana Fosha, psychotherapist Karen Pando-Mars, and I dive into the science of healing attachment wounds and exploring how AEDP can help people create healthier patterns.   Together we explore:   - What exactly is AEDP, directly from the creator of this therapy modality herself   - Unpacking how and why attachment "styles" aren't as fixed as we often think, and may not even be the most accurate way of thinking about attachment security...and what actually is!   - What the research reveals about repairing attachment ruptures and how to get through them in order to establish a secure attachment relationship.   - An exercise in reflective functioning and the types of things you can say to model and build this skill in your child.   - A trick for allowing yourself to stay in a feeling of discomfort or shame without immediately going straight to defensiveness.    - What people with different attachment styles need to start to move more toward secure attachment.   Tune in for a discussion that will shift your perspective on attachment, healing, and the power of connection.     SHOW NOTES: (link)   LEARN MORE ABOUT AEDP: https://aedpinstitute.org/   ATTEND THEIR CONFERENCE: https://aedpinstitute.org/aedp-conference-2025-in-it-together/   READ THEIR BOOK: 📚 Tailoring Treatment in Attachment Patterns: Healing Trauma in Relationships     CHECK OUT ADDITIONAL PODCAST EPISODES YOU MAY LIKE:   🎧 Breaking the cycle of insecure attachment: How to support your child's secure attachment even if you didn't grow up with Dr. Miriam Steele   🎧 Codependency, insecure attachment, and relationship patterns: Creating stronger, healthier romantic partnerships with Alana Carvalho   🎧 The lifelong impact of early relationships: How secure attachment influences children’s ability to make sense of their experiences and cope in the face of adversity with Dr. Alan Sroufe