295: Enable Family Transitions with Doug Gray

https://youtu.be/GigFOIkP3BI Doug Gray, Family Wealth Advisor, Succession Planning Expert, and Founder of Action Learning Associates, is passionate about helping leaders flourish through agency, curiosity, and collaborative frameworks. We discuss Doug’s ADFIT Protocol for Leadership Development, a simple and effective framework that assumes people don’t need to be “fixed” — they need the structure to grow. Doug also explores how family businesses can navigate succession by understanding emotional dynamics, empowering Next Gen leaders, and shifting from control to collaboration. His latest book, The Success Playbook for Next Gen Family Business Leaders, gives rising leaders the tools to step into their future with clarity and confidence. --- Enable Family Transitions with Doug Gray Good day, dear listeners, Steve Preda here with the Management Blueprint Podcast. And my guest today is Doug Gray, Family Wealth Advisor, Business Change Management Agent, Organizational Leadership Facilitator, Succession Planning Advisor, and Executive Coach. He's also the founder of Action Learning Associates and the author of three books on leadership. Doug, welcome to the show. Thanks so much, Steve. Pleasure to be here. Yeah, great to have you. And let's start with my favorite question. What is your personal “Why” and how do you manifest this in your practice and in your activities? I like to go big. So, to serve tens of thousands of leaders, I'm not sure how to quantify it, but I think the idea of serving others in their leadership development journey is the most important “Why” I can imagine. Yeah, well, that certainly can be rewarding. Any particular reason it's important to you to serve others? We don't use the verb serve enough. I live in the south where Chick-fil-A is abundant and people will openly ask, how may I serve you? Which is a delightful question. Greenleaf was an academic and a Quaker who asked, how may I serve you? And service servant leadership emerged from that philosophy. And I think we need to do a better job of serving one another's needs. Yeah, I love that. Really, this mindset of looking at the other person and thinking about the other person rather than ourselves and not be self-serving, but be other serving. It's definitely a resonance with me. It's primary also in leadership development, but also in learning. Curiosity is the result of, like you worked in executive coaching for a long time. And curiosity is the currency of learning. To what extent can you become curious about the other person on the call? Similarly, right now, your podcasters are thinking, oh, this Doug Gray guy, he's fairly weird. And they get curious about various things. And they ask questions or they invite you to do so. And that curiosity is what impels us to learn. It's what enables us to use tools like AI. Coaches are great at writing prompts, thankfully. What I love about AI is that anything that comes to mind, I'm a very curious person. And I hear a word, I say, where does this word come from? And then I can immediately ask AI and then I can go about my business. It doesn't take any effort and better insight. So yeah, I agree. I was talking to a client just the other day, a new client, and he asked whom should I bring to the team into discussion? And we went through different perspectives and still there was some uncertainty in his mind about who has the potential to be leader. And I asked him, which of these people are curious? He says, oh yeah, some of them are not curious. And then he connected the dots that if they're not curious, they're not going to learn, they're not going to grow, they're not going to be leaders. That's right. Yeah, totally agree with that. Okay. So I'm very curious about the framework that you're bringing to this show. And we discussed in the pre-interview about this idea that people don't need to be fixed because they have agency and capacity.