#282 The Power of Doing What You Don’t Feel Like After a Breakup

12 Aug 2025 • 18 min • EN

In today’s solo episode, I’m diving deep into one of my favorite—and most powerful—tools for breakup recovery: contrary action. I talk about how, in the midst of heartbreak, your thoughts and feelings can often steer you in the wrong direction, and why doing the opposite of what you feel like doing can be a true game changer. I share actionable ways to put contrary action into practice, how routines can support your healing, and why building self-trust and self-esteem really starts with showing up for yourself—especially when it feels hardest. I also discuss the tricky balance between listening to your feelings and pushing yourself just enough, providing tips for what to do when motivation is at its lowest. If you’re feeling stuck or unsure how to move forward, this episode is for you! To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://breakupbestie.typeform.com/to/x0WglwDO To get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off! To learn about all of my courses: https://www.breakupbestie.com/courses To join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873 Get a copy of The Breakup Workbook here! Our Sponsors: * Check out BetterHelp: https://betterhelp.com/HEARTBREAK * Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code HEARTBREAK for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com * Check out Mint Mobile: https://mintmobile.com/heartbreak Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

From "Heal Your Heartbreak"

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