280. Codependency, insecure attachment, and relationship patterns: Creating stronger, healthier romantic partnerships with Alana Carvalho

How does attachment security relate to codependency? The Codependent Perfectionist, Alana Carvalho, LMHC, is here to explore just that!   In this episode, we cover it all:   - How does codependency fit into the attachment system?   - Does this sound like what you're struggling with in your relationship? We're reviewing some of the most common challenges partners face when one person is more avoidant, and the other is more anxious.   - Challenging perceptions of what is necessary in a relationship. When we see the world through dysfunctional patterns, we are often unaware of this dysfunction.   - The differences between missatunement versus misperception and how understanding this difference can help us get on the same page on both!   - A tangible exercise you can do with your partner to help you create a stronger dynamic (and why this works to not kick up a threat response, and helps them stay engaged in the conversation more successfully.)   Whether you’re struggling with relational patterns or looking to better understand your partner, this episode offers powerful insights and tools for cultivating healthier relationships.     LEARN MORE ABOUT ALANA: https://www.alanacarvalho.com/   TAKE THE QUIZ: https://www.alanacarvalho.com/the-codependent-perfectionist-quiz/   READ ALANA'S BOOK: 📚 Raising Empowered Children: The Codependent Perfectionist’s Guide to Parenting   FOLLOW US ON INSTAGRAM: @thecodependentperfectionist @drsarahbren   ADDITIONAL REFERENCES AND RESOURCES: 🎧 Listen to Alana's first Securely Attached episode, Recognizing and overcoming codependency in parenthood   CHECK OUT ADDITIONAL PODCAST EPISODES YOU MAY LIKE: 🎧 Breaking the cycle of insecure attachment: How to support your child's secure attachment even if you didn't grow up with Dr. Miriam Steele   🎧 Can my kid be securely attached to me if I'm insecurely attached in my adult relationships?   🎧 Secure attachment is optimal, but insecure attachment may not be as bad as we think with Dr. Or Dagan