159. Are kids stuck in a perfectionist loop? Help them break free!

In this episode of Overpowering Emotions, Dr. Caroline goes deeper into the practical side of overcoming perfectionism with a focus on procedural thinking. She shares actionable steps to help kids break free from the overwhelming need to be perfect by shifting their mindset to “What’s next?” Learn how to guide children through breaking tasks into manageable steps, using reflective questions, celebrating effort, and embracing the journey of trial and error. This episode is packed with tips to foster resilience, adaptability, and a love of learning, helping kids stay focused on progress rather than perfection. Tune in to discover simple yet powerful ways to help children keep moving forward! Prefer to watch? Check out the episode on YouTube! And, to help kids shift away from perfectionism and embrace procedural thinking, choose at least one of these practical homework activities this week. Break Tasks into Manageable Steps Choose a task your child is struggling with or avoiding. Work with them to break it down into smaller, sequential steps. Use visual aids like Post-its, a checklist, or a step-by-step plan on paper. This approach makes overwhelming tasks feel achievable and helps kids stay focused on one step at a time, reducing anxiety. Practice Low-Stakes Problem-Solving Engage in activities like board games, puzzles, or building blocks where mistakes happen frequently. Use these moments to practice the “What’s next?” mindset. When a mistake occurs, gently prompt, “What’s next?” to keep the momentum going. This will build familiarity with the “What’s next?” approach in a fun, low-pressure setting, making it easier to apply in more stressful situations. If they want, have them make a “What’s Next?” visual and display it where they often face challenges. This keeps their focus on the next action rather than getting stuck in self-criticism or rumination. Model “What’s Next?” in Your Own Life Verbally model your problem-solving when you face setbacks or mistakes. Share your thought process aloud, such as, “I made an error in this recipe—what’s next? I’ll adjust and try again.” Involve your child in finding solutions when appropriate. Doing so demonstrates resilience and flexibility, showing kids that mistakes are normal and manageable. End-of-Day Reflection At the end of each day, ask your child to reflect on any mistakes they made and, importantly, what they did next. Discuss how using “What’s next?” helped them move forward. These reflections reinforce the habit of focusing on actionable steps and acknowledge their resilience and perseverance. Want to learn more about helping kids strengthen their emotion regulation skills and problem-solving brains while boosting their confidence, independence, and resilience? Check out my many training opportunities! https://drcarolinebuzanko.com/upcoming-events/