How Toxic Positivity May Be a Trauma Response or People Pleasing Behavior with Whitney Goodman

Sherry and Carla first take a Love Fix question from a listener who feels their long-distance relationship running away, and is too afraid to cross boundaries to talk with her partner about it. They then welcome Whitney Goodman, LMFT, the radically honest psychotherapist behind the hugely popular Instagram account @sitwithwhit, author of Toxic Positivity, and the owner of the Collaborative Counseling Center, a virtual therapy practice in Florida. Whitney talks about what exactly toxic positivity is, and how we can shift to a deeper and more authentic connection with ourselves and the people around us. She talks with Carla and Sherry about how to recognize toxic positivity in your own self-talk and provides some better questions to ask when a friend is going through a breakup and you want to support them in the way they desire.   Connect with Us! The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast Get 1:1 Dating & Relationship Coaching The Love Fix Relationship Quiz   Sherry Join Sherry’s brand new live coaching program Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse Inner Circle  Holiday Edition. Early Bird Session ends today https://wakeuprecovery.com/break-free-from-narcissist-abuse-holidays/    Carla Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp   Whitney  Website | Toxic Positivity Book | Instagram    Sign up to be in TDR database: https://www.threedayrule.com/CarlaRomo   Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love.   Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.   What You’ll Hear In This Episode: What exactly is toxic positivity? How does toxic positivity create a barrier between true and authentic connection? Tips for what to do and say when someone is displaying toxic positivity towards you. How toxic positivity can actually be people's pleasing and codependent behavior. Whitney talks about the correlation between toxic positivity and relationships or dating. How to be a better listener when one of your friends is going through a breakup. The things we think others are worried or concerned about quite often aren’t them at all, and that is why listening is so important. More about Whitney’s book, Toxic Positivity, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships and gaining confidence. How toxic positivity can actually be a trauma response as well, and the ways it is similar to spiritual bypassing.   Disclaimer: The Love Fix Podcast content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. The Love Fix Podcast is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. The Love Fix podcast does not constitute medical consultation or treatment, health insurance does not apply.