No Blame Marriage Using The Genius Zone with Dr. Gay Hendricks

Carla and Sherry open the show talking about if opposites attract when it comes to love, and take a Love Fix question on eradicating shame around divorce, especially when you want to try again. Then, they welcome Gay Hendricks, Ph.D., a leader in the fields of relationship transformation and bodymind therapies for more than 45 years. After earning his Ph.D. from Stanford, Gay has written more than 40 books including bestsellers such as The Genuis Zone, The Big Leap, and Conscious Loving. Gay talks about working with his co-author and mate for more than 40 years, Dr. Kathyn Hendricks, and their commitment to take criticism and blame out of their marriage and home. Gay also talks with Sherry and Carla about the power of intention, how we can address our upper limit problems and get into the flow of our genius zone.    What You’ll Hear In This Episode:   A Love Fix Question: I’ve been divorced, maybe even multiple times. How do I get rid of this shame?  What are “upper limit problems”, and how do we work on our personal ones so we can show up more fully with our partner?  How do our upper limit problems also affect our issues with codependency and love addiction?  How to get in the genius zone and stay there!  The importance of tuning into our body and listening to the signals we get on a daily basis.  Why are emotions such as sadness and fear often repressed, and what is the cost? Sex problems are never about sex, money are problems are never about money. They are about unexpressed key emotions along the way. Resources for finding your calling and taking The Big Leap to get there with Guy, along with ways to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency and gaining confidence.  It’s true, Gay and his wife Dr. Kathryn decided to run their relationship on positive energy rather than blame, and it freed them up to create more and live a healthier life.  The way to get unstuck is to make a heartfelt commitment to something better.  Practical tips for getting out of the blame/drama triangle and the “ha” move.  The difference between blaming yourself and taking full accountability and responsibility.  Most of us are a few 10 minute sweaty conversations from having a breakthrough with our loved one.   Tweetables: “If you can cultivate more body awareness, it will always tell you the truth.” - Gay  “Every transformation project begins with heartfelt commitment.” - Gay  “Every day of my life, I get to live on a steady diet of miracles.” - Gay  “Relationship change starts with one courageous person taking a stand for something better.” - Gay  Connect with Us!   The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast Wake up Recovery for Codependency, Love Addiction, and Toxic Relationships — $1 trial membership The Love Fix Relationship Quiz     Get professional online counseling with BetterHelp by clicking here. Thanks to BetterHelp for sponsoring this episode.   Find Out More:    Sherry Website | Instagram | Facebook | Love Smacked | Wake Up Recovery for Codependents and Toxic Relationships     Carla Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp    Dr. Guy Hendricks  Website | Facebook | The Big Leap | The Genius Zone