#108 Chip Conley on Why Everyone Has Midlife Wrong

Chip Conley is the founder of Joie de Vivre Hospitality, an advisor to Airbnb and the author of 5 books, including his most recent work; Wisdom at Work: The Making of a Modern Elder https://amzn.to/2FGPUAI. In this episode of Impact Theory with Tom Bilyeu, he talks about wisdom, curiosity, and what it means to live a good life as you age.   Impact Theory is proudly sponsored by: The Jordan Harbinger Show: visit www.jordanharbinger.com/subscribe to start enjoying the show today! ButcherBox: Use the discount code: "TOM" at butcherbox.com to get 20$ off and FREE BACON Skillshare: Start learning on Skillshare today with 2 free months at skillshare.com/impacttheory Blinkist: Visit blinkist.com/IMPACT to try out the premium service completely free for 7 days!   SHOW NOTES: How Chip Conley lived and died 9 times within a 90 minute period [2:24] What he says about a divine intervention [5:10] Chip Conley talks about psychedelic experience and why art is at the center of life [6:15] How we’re being possessed by smartphone screens and not having real-life experiences anymore [8:11] How to “tap into” the atmosphere of burning man without going to a big festival [9:03] The nametags people wear without realizing it and the mindsets we carry about our lives [10:37] Chip Conley provides thoughts on the value of society. [12:40] The U-curve of happiness and how you get less happy each decade until mid-life [15:39] Why he joined AIRBNB at age 52 and became the modern elder [16:54] The value of energy, curiosity, passion. [18:54] Why pattern recognition is so important for living an awesome life [19:12] How to foster curiosity [21:25] The recipe for Chip Conley’s success [22:40] Check out appreciative inquiry [23:17] Why the difference between presence and absence is an iPhone. [25:54] Why presence is more valuable now than it’s ever been before [26:02] The ritual of burning man and the hero's journey [27:27] What’s interesting about life? [29:30] One of the most valuable questions in business is “what business are you in?” [32:41] Maslow’s hierarchy of needs [34:34] Why 5 of his friends committed suicide and what he took from that [38:05] The difference between attain mode vs. attune mode in life (important!) [39:37] Why he wants to make aging aspirational again [41:15]   QUOTES: “The more digital we get, the more ritual we need” [8:01] “The #1 thing that people have to do to understand their mindset is to first identify it, then imagine a different point of view for it, then own that new point of view for it, and then actually start talking from that new point of view.” [11:16] “The kind of questions that are asked in a leadership meeting tell me everything about the culture.” [24:08]   PEOPLE MENTIONED: Brian Chesky [6:36] David Cooperrider [23:17] Tim Ferriss https://bit.ly/2FypAta [26:45] Steve Jobs https://bit.ly/IN1Lf8 [31:17] Peter Drucker [32:39] Ted Levitt [32:41] Abraham Maslow [34:22] Viktor Frankl [34:23] Lao Tzu [34:34] Bill Gates [37:30]   BOOKS MENTIONED: “What Business Are You In?” Harvard Business Review https://bit.ly/1uUqakZ [32:41] Man’s Search For Meaning https://amzn.to/2FwKetL [34:56] Emotional Equations: Simple Steps for Creating Happiness + Success in Business + Life https://amzn.to/2CuLGJj [35:54]