“I Thought I Killed My Babies”: One Mother’s 11-Year Silence and the Healing That Finally Set Her Free

If you’ve ever been told to “stay strong” after loss, episode 386 will change how you see strength. Life coach Shruti Trivedi shares her journey through the loss of three babies and the 11 years she spent suppressing her pain. Through therapy and her “three A’s”—acknowledge, accept, and address—she discovered that true healing begins when you stop hiding your grief. Her story is a raw reminder that facing pain is often the first step toward peace. In This Episode, You Will Learn: (00:53) Shruti’s introduction and the losses that changed her life (02:04) The 11-year silence before seeking therapy—and how it transformed her healing (05:01) Why pregnancy loss is so misunderstood and often dismissed (08:35) Teaching children emotional honesty through shared grief (10:37) How Shruti helped her daughters honor their twin brothers each year (14:43) What to say—and what not to say—to someone grieving a loss (18:41) How fathers grieve differently and why their pain is often invisible (21:05) The danger of masking pain and the stigma around showing emotion (25:47) The “mental tumor” effect of unspoken grief and how to cleanse it (30:00) Finding peace through naming, remembering, and continuing bonds with lost babies Shruti Trivedi is a Certified Life Coach, PMP®, and founder of Tulsi Heals Life Coaching, where she helps women and parents navigate grief and emotional healing with empathy and structure. After spending over 13 years in IT consulting and leadership, her own experience of losing three babies—one early miscarriage and identical twin boys at 23 weeks—transformed her life’s direction. That profound loss inspired her to become an advocate for mental health awareness, emotional resilience, and self-compassion, using both her professional background and personal story to guide others through recovery. In this conversation, Shruti shares how she spent 11 years suppressing her grief before finally seeking therapy, a decision that became the foundation of her healing. She introduces her “three A’s” approach—acknowledge, accept, and address—as a framework for moving through pain rather than escaping it. With honesty and warmth, she discusses letting go of guilt, showing vulnerability to her children, and redefining strength as the ability to feel deeply. Her story reminds listeners that healing begins with allowing space for emotion—and that offering presence and compassion often means more than finding the perfect words. Connect with Shruti Trivedi: LinkedIn Substack Instagram YouTube TikTok Let's Connect:  Website Instagram The Grief and Happiness Alliance Book: Loving and Living Your Way Through Grief Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.