High-Functioning Codependency: When Being “The Strong One” Is Slowly Killing You with Terri Cole | 341

03 Sep 2025 • 43 min • EN
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Most of us think codependency looks like someone clinging to a toxic partner, losing themselves to someone else’s addictions, or being a doormat. But Terri Cole, licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, and author of Boundary Boss and her brand-new book Too Much, is here to blow that outdated definition out of the water. Terri has spent over two decades working with everyone from stay-at-home moms to Fortune 500 CEOs, helping them break free from self-sacrificing patterns and build healthier, more authentic relationships. She inspires more than a million people weekly through her blog, social media, signature courses, and The Terri Cole Show podcast. In this episode, Nicole and Terri unpack high-functioning codependency—the kind that hides behind promotions, praise, and the “she can handle it all” reputation. Spoiler: it still feels like shit. Together, they dive into how to spot the signs, why resentment is the red flag you can’t ignore, and how boundaries, self-consideration, and surrendering (without self-abandoning) might be the antidote you’ve been missing. Because friend, if you’re exhausted, resentful, and constantly over-giving, this episode is your permission slip to drop the cape, stop fixing everyone else’s mess, and finally start considering yourself. Connect with Terri: Website: https://www.terricole.com/  Book: hfcbook.com  IG: https://www.instagram.com/terricole/ FB: https://www.facebook.com/TerriColeLCSW/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/terricoleny Podcast: https://terricole.com/itunes Related Podcast Episodes Healing Relationships: The 4 Essential Pillars for Lasting Love with Dr. Rachel Glik | 283 7 Rules of Self-Reliance with Maha Abouelenein | 240 How To Be Selfish with Naketa Ren Thigpen | 329 Share the Love: If you found this episode insightful, please share it with a friend, tag us on social media, and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform! 🔗 Subscribe & Review:Apple Podcasts | Spotify | Amazon Music Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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