Grab Life by the Handlebars—Even After Failing (Tonya Herb)

Life and leadership coach Tonya Herb explores how failure can be transformed from a source of shame into a stepping stone for growth. Drawing from her personal journey and client work, she reveals practical strategies to reframe setbacks, build resilience, and turn feedback into forward momentum. Tonya Herb is the founder of Outspoken with Tonya Kay. In this episode, Melinda and Tonya talk about:Redefining failure as a stepping stone rather than a setbackThe impact of perfectionism on coaches and their businessesRecognizing signals and symptoms of perfectionism and people-pleasingDistinguishing between fear-based perfectionism and high expectationsThe importance of mindset shifts and emotional intelligence when dealing with failureViewing failure as feedback and not taking it personallyPractical strategies for handling failure, including the "STEER" formulaSetting healthy boundaries and empowering othersUsing core values as an anchor during challenges and failuresUnderstanding both failure and success as feedback and integral parts of growth “Failure is simply feedback. We need to get good at receiving feedback or recognizing what it is for us.” — Tonya Herb Guest Bio: Tonya Herb is the founder of Outspoken with Tonya Kay, where she empowers individuals and organizations to ignite their potential, overcome doubt, and take action to create a life on their own terms. As someone who went from climbing the corporate ladder to embracing a life of self-discovery and empowerment, Tonya understands the toll that high expectations can take on a person. Her journey from stress and perfectionism to clarity and peace fuels her mission to guide others through similar transformations. Combining real talk, practical strategies, and a touch of fun, Tonya makes personal growth not just attainable, but genuinely enjoyable. Resources or websites mentioned in this episode: Mirasee Coaches Console Melinda’s books: The Confident Coach and The Professional Coach Tonya’s website: TonyaKay.co Credits: Host: Melinda Cohan Producer and Editor: Michi Lantz Executive Producer: Danny Iny Music Soundscape: Chad Michael Snavely Making our hosts sound great: Home Brew Audio To catch the great episodes that are coming up on Just Between Coaches, please follow us on Mirasee FM's YouTube channelor your favorite podcast player. And if you enjoyed the show, please leave us a comment or a starred review. It's the best way to help us get these ideas to more people. Music credits: Track Title: Clouds Artist Name: Acreage Writer Name: Marshall Usinger Publisher Name: BOSS SOUNDSTRIPE PRODUCTIONS Track Title: Coastline Dream Artist Name: Wild Sky Writer Name: Adam Simons Publisher Name: BOSS SOUNDSTRIPE PRODUCTIONS Track Title: Coo Coos Artist Name: Dresden, The Flamingo Writer Name: Matthew Wigton Publisher Name: A SOUNDSTRIPE PRODUCTION Track Title: Stars & Trees Artist Name: Outside The Sky Writer Name: Dustin Ransom Publisher Name: A SOUNDSTRIPE PRODUCTION Special effects credits: 24990513_birds-chirping_by_promission used with permission of the author and under license by AudioJungle/Envato Market. Episode transcript: Grab Life by the Handlebars—Even After Failing (Tonya Herb).