Faith, Sex, and Theater - Dr. Bruce Chalmer

The real problem in troubled relationships isn"t poor communication – it"s what couples are actually communicating to each other. Dr. Bruce Chalmer upends conventional wisdom about couples therapy in this eye-opening conversation that challenges everything you thought you knew about relationship struggles. Drawing from over 30 years as a psychologist and couples therapist, Dr. Chalmer explains why the traditional advice to "communicate better" misses the mark entirely. "The couples are communicating perfectly effectively," he notes with gentle wisdom. "They"re just communicating that they don"t like or trust each other." This profound insight forms the foundation of his approach to helping couples reconnect and rediscover intimacy. At the heart of relationship challenges lies the tension between stability and intimacy. While stability requires predictability, intimacy demands vulnerability and risk. Most couples, especially those with established lives together, prioritize stability so heavily that they avoid anything that might "rock the boat" – including honest conversations. Over time, this avoidance creates emotional distance that extinguishes the spark that originally brought them together. The conversation takes unexpected turns as Dr. Chalmer discusses his journey from statistician to therapist, explains how infidelity affects nearly half his clients, and shares his concept of "sacred sex" as a transcendent connection that reaches beyond the couple to something larger. His compassionate approach acknowledges men"s common reluctance toward therapy – not from lack of caring, but from fear of being judged or blamed. Whether you"re struggling in your relationship or simply curious about human connection, Dr. Chalmer"s insights offer a refreshing perspective that honors the complexity of intimate partnerships while providing practical wisdom for navigating their challenges. In his words: "Be kind, don"t panic, and have faith." PARENTAL GUIDANCE ALERT: (Some language used in this interview may not be fit for minors or some adults may find objectionable so please advise with my apologies!) Have a question for Mista Yu? Text the show and he’ll answer it personally. Buzzsprout - Launch Your Podcast Now! I trust this host. You will too! Start for FREE We love hearing from all of you about how you're enjoying our content! A really cool way you can do that is Fan Mail. Check out the promo and starting sending messages right away! It's easy and it's fun too! Trust me! Thank you for reaching out and allowing us the privilege of hearing from our faithful listeners and viewers! I can't wait to get your next message! Buzzsprout - Launch Your Podcast Now! I trust this host. You will too! Start for FREE Support the show Thank you for listening to the They Call Me Mista Yu brand of podcasts! We love hearing from you! Apple Podcasts: Https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/they-call-me-mista-yu/id1535535535 YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@Theycallmemistayu Here’s how you can help us financially if you’d like---> www.buzzsprout.com/1222796/supporters/new