ERP 496: From Old Patterns to Strong Partnership—Using Tiny External Shifts — An Interview with Laura Day

Ever felt like you’re stuck in old relationship patterns, no matter how hard you try to break free? Or perhaps you find yourself repeating the same old arguments, feeling misunderstood, or cycling through self-doubt and disconnection from your partner. The truth is, long-term intimacy often brings hidden challenges to the surface, and many of us wrestle with how to unravel deeply ingrained habits that hold us back from experiencing truly authentic, safe, and thriving partnerships. In this episode, listeners discover how making tiny, targeted external shifts—rather than endlessly searching for answers within—can pave the way for new relational experiences and stronger partnerships. By exploring actionable strategies rooted in intuition, personal development, and a unique system for understanding your “ego centers,” you’ll learn how even the smallest changes can disrupt well-worn habits, unlock growth, and attract more authentic, secure connections in your life. Whether struggling with undervaluing yourself, longing for healthier dynamics, or navigating the challenge of healing old wounds in love, this conversation offers fresh perspectives and practical tools to help you build the partnership you truly want. New York Times best-selling author and intuitive Laura Day has spent nearly four decades helping individuals, organizations, and companies harness and develop their innate intuitive abilities to create profound change. Newsweek magazine calls her “The $10,000-a-Month Psychic,” adding “When business people need a crystal ball, they turn to consultant Laura Day, the ‘intuitionist.’” The Independent dubbed her “The Psychic of Wall Street.” Laura’s work has helped demystify intuition and bring it into the mainstream for everyday folk and A-Listers. In her workshops and presentations, she demonstrates the practical, verifiable, and sometimes astonishing uses of intuition in the fields of business, science, medicine, and personal growth. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website.   Episode Highlights 04:49 How Laura Day’s trauma shaped her path as an intuitive. 08:11 Bringing structure and credibility to intuitive and psychic work.  11:57 Discovering the “Prism” and redefining the role of ego. 14:25 How small external shifts can disrupt ingrained patterns. 19:19 How our bodies and patterns shape reality. 21:02 What your heartbeat says about your relationships. 25:35 How self-talk influences the energy you bring to relationships. 29:10 How new habits around value impact every area of life. 31:12 Simple practices to reinforce self-worth and openness. 34:01 Setting goals and finding a community to support relational growth.   Your Check List of Actions to Take Write down three meaningful goals that give your life and relationships purpose. Pick one small, new habit to try today—something simple that disrupts old patterns. When you catch self-criticism, replace it with a gentle affirmation (e.g., “I forgive myself for being imperfect”). Practice responding to opportunities and compliments with openness and gratitude to change how you engage with the world. Pause to notice what emotion you’re giving off before you act or speak. Invite new experiences, people, or communities into your life that challenge your habits or expand your perspective, rather than only looking inward. Do one thing outside your comfort zone or in a new environment. Join or engage with a community that encourages your growth.   Mentioned The Prism: Seven Steps to Heal Your Past and Transform Your Future (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Practical Intuition: How to Harness the Power of Your Instinct and Make It Work for You (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Practical Intuition in Love: Let Your Intuition Guide You to the Love of Your Life (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication Connect with Laura Day Websites: lauraday.com Facebook: facebook.com/lauradaycircle YouTube: youtube.com/user/LauraDayCircle Instagram: instagram.com/lauradayintuit LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/laura-day-023b1713