#351 The Science of Attraction: Why We Repeat Childhood Patterns in Love

In this insightful conversation, we explore the deeper layers of relationships, attachment styles, and emotional healing. Key takeaways include: Understanding anxious attachment styles and how they are shaped by childhood experiences. Breaking free from repetition compulsion and the cycle of attracting similar partners. Insights into perfectionism as a protector and its roots in childhood environments. Recognizing patterns of people-pleasing and setting healthier boundaries. The power of self-awareness in transforming relationship dynamics. Whether you"re navigating attachment issues or simply seeking to understand yourself better, this episode offers tools and perspectives to help you create healthier connections. Chapters:   00:00 - Intro: Understanding perfectionism as a protector. 02:19 - Identifying attachment patterns in relationships. 05:00 - What is anxious attachment, and how does it form? 07:44 - The impact of absent fathers and seeking healthy masculinity. 12:00 - How trauma bonds and attachment styles affect relationships. 14:21 - The role of perfectionism in managing inner chaos. 18:02 - Rebellious behavior and seeking control in childhood. 22:54 - Breaking people-pleasing habits and setting boundaries. 25:39 - Changing patterns through awareness and self-regulation. 29:13 - The science of focus: How observation changes outcomes. Stay Connected: Follow Oliver on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/yeskingoliver Want to regain control of your life from modern-day stress, anxiety, and influence? Check out my FREE course - take control!     http://www.talkwitholiver.com