235. Lead Yourself First: Elisabeth White on Empathy, Emotion & Empowerment

Elisabeth White, Millennial, is an Agile (and coffee) aficionado with a passion for people and transformation. She has spent the past fifteen years guiding organizations on incredible Agile journeys—focusing on continuous improvements within leadership, culture, people, and processes. Her contagious personality and collaborative work ethic complement many team and office environments. White is a CEO by title, coach by profession, facilitator by trade, and Agilist at heart. Born and raised in the great state of Colorado (Go Broncos!), White is saving the world, one Agile journey at a time! Here are the topics we covered: 0:00 Introduction 1:48 Women leadership & change 3:26 Emotions of strength for women 6:02 Self leadership 13:45 Self-doubt 15:17 Leading with denial, blame, or shame 16:53 Difficult conversations 20:42 Authentic personas 24:24 Human-centric wheel 36:21 20-something advice Memorable Quotes “When you put chaos (happens in any change) and crazy (false narrative about women’s emotions) together there’s a of a fear factor.” “It’s important that when we show up to lead, we are first leading ourselves.” “I know how to move through this, I know how to help us, and I’m going to do it with such empathy and such care, that we’re going to wow the crowd!” “We have to help people turn their hands so they realize there’s different perspectives than one.” “If I can’t show up authentically then I need to lead myself to somewhere else where I can.” “Self-doubt will destroy careers instead “pause for the cause” and ask yourself: Do I have clear direction here?” “Who’s driving the bus and where’s the bus going? If it’s self-doubt we need to stop the bus and get a new driver!” “Am I actually showing up with empathy? Am I actually showing up with care?” “How do you think you showed up and was the response you received in alignment with that?” Here are the 3 Takeaways: 1. The fact that women are so in-tuned with their emotions actually is the “secret sauce” for leading change. You need to overcome the false narratives to move through that change in a way other leaders can’t. Women bring empathy and innate ability to be caretakers. Change is often tough and this gives women an ability to navigate brilliantly. 2. Leading ourselves requires us to show up with a level of confidence and self-esteem to demonstrate we know what we’re doing and are great leaders. It starts first by leading ourselves and being authentic. And if that doesn’t quite “fit” respond with: “You’re welcomed; you probably need a different perspective and that’s probably why I’m here.” 3. When considering making decisions you can “pause for the cause” and ask yourself these questions: Do I have clear direction here? Do I understand the purpose I serve here? Do I like it and am I ok with this purpose? Do I understand the why I’m here? Do I have a clear and safe path to follow? Do I have people to walk that path with me? If you answer yes, then make sure it’s not self-doubt driving those choices instead of self-leadership. It’s important to check-in to see who is in the driver’s seat.  As Mentioned: Elisabeth's book release June 3rd People Do Change Available at Amazon https://www.amazon.com/ Yo’s Failure Resume: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1WPCCRUYYZMyzhBvhBnzSguXFrmDOEdkOapF-5xUGnyI/edit?usp=sharing Free Offer/Training Courses: https://www.cornerstoneagility.com/people-do-change/ Training schedule for my upcoming courses can be found on our website: https://www.cornerstoneagility.com/training/agile-training-calendar/ Ways to follow/contact Elisabeth: info@cornerstoneagility.com Ways to reach Yo: eMail  yo@yocanny.com    Public FB group: Girl, Take the Lead! https://www.facebook.com/groups/272025931481748/?ref=share Linktr.ee/yocanny IG: https://www.instagram.com/yocanny LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/yocanny/