228. Managing Up Without Selling Out: Emotional Intelligence & Self-Leadership with Nejat Abdurahman

Nejat Abdurahman, Millennial, is a Keynote Speaker, the Author of The Art of Managing Up, and founder of N-BAC, a business advisory & consulting firm that helps organizations and leaders transform the way they lead. She is a certified leadership and emotional intelligence coach andDISC Practitioner who enables organizational growth and transformation through learning and leadership development. A continuous learner herself, Nejat lovesto spark passion for learning and help people unlock their potential. Nejat earned her MBA from Isenberg School of Management, UMass Amherst, and her BAdegree in Economics from Addis Ababa University. What You’ll Learn in This Episode:   0:00 Introduction 2:15 Taboo Subject? 7:35 Feeling Unappreciated 8:11 Confidence and Humility 10:36 Personal and Team Acknowledgement Example 12:59 Mobilizing your boss 18:56 Self-awareness and Leadership 20:24 Emotional Intelligence 22:47 Being Dismissed 25:36 Holistic Approach 28:02 Generational Insights 32:12 20-Something Self Advice Quotable Moments: “One thing that keeps people from managing up are the myths associated with it.”   “I thought I was the right person in the pipeline for the promotion and contributing this much, and someone else is hired?!”   “We’re pretty bad about marketing ourselves and it’s always difficult.”   “I wish I had this so much sooner.”   “Which one is priority for the organization and boss?”   “Communicate with others the way they would like to communicate, not the way you want to becommunicate.”   “Self-leadership is the foundation of great leadership. The foundation of self-leadership is self-awareness.”   “Self-awareness is really knowing who you are, your goals, strengths, talents, passion, what gives you energy, and tendencies (how you communicate).”   “Emotional intelligence is a lifetime skill – it’s having the knowledge of our own emotions and regulating them and understanding others and leading with empathy andcompassion.”   “Leadership is for people. Managing includes resources.”   “Instead of thinking about yourself, think about the work you are doing, the learning. the purpose, the mission.”   “Focus on self-love a lot.”       Three Episode Takeaways:    1.   When we think of managing up there are myths associated with it including we’re arrogant or being out of integrity. We also think if we just do our work, datawill speak for itself and others will see the value added we bring. When someone manages up and actively sharing what is being contributed new opportunities open up.   2.   There are two extremes of leaders: 1.Totally promotes themselves or 2. Focus on the team at the loss of personal accomplishments. The in-between is to do both. 3.   Make sure your hard work is aligned with the organization and your boss so your work is adding value and appreciated. Nejat makes the distinction between a great and productive relationship with your boss. When having difficulty with yourboss, think about the different communication styles and remember to ask how they would like you to communicate to have a more productive relationship.   Special Offer: Managing Up Assessment https://nbac.outgrow.us/nbac-3   Episode Resource:   The Art of Managing Up https://www.amazon.com   How to reach Nejat:   nejat@n-bac.com   Website: https://www.n-bac.com/   https://www.facebook.com/nejat.h.abdurahman/   https://www.linkedin.com/in/anejat/   How to reach Yo:    Our website: www.girltaketheleadpod.com  You can send a messageor voicemail there. We’d love to hear from you!   email: yo@yocanny.com   FB group: Girl, Take the Lead https://www.facebook.com/groups/272025931481748/?ref=share   IG: yocanny   YouTube   LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/yocanny/