14 Steps to Rebuild Trust after an Affair

1.   Come clean ... shoot straight ... no more lies.   2.   Take complete responsibility ... don’t blame. 3.   Completely end things with the other person. 4.   Be remorseful and apologetic. 5.   Listen with empathy. 6.   Ask for forgiveness. 7.   Be transparent. Don’t hide things. Be where you say you will be. Regularly check in. Text back or call back immediately if possible.  8.   Answer questions. (if they want to know. You don’t have to know, you might not like what you learn.) 9.   You can’t just say “let’s start over” because that won’t solve any of the problems or heal the emotional issues. Death – Get over it.  10.                 Be patient as your spouse heals. IF YOU’VE BEEN UNFAITHFUL TO YOUR SPOUSE, YOU ABSOLUTELY CANNOT DICTATE HOW LONG IT WILL TAKE THEM TO HEAL. BUT YOU CAN HELP THE PROCESS BY BEING AN OPEN BOOK TO THEM FROM HERE ONWARD.  11.                 Be around and available.  12.                 Make them feel like they are #1 again.  13.                 Refresh your marriage. Counseling ... workshop. ETC 14.                 NEVER cheat again.  Support the show