Your Secret Is Safe With Me

The fear of dating again after a long period of not dating is definitely a factor that keeps some people from thinking clearly about what they want to do about their infidelity situation.   In this episode, I'm addressing the terror and dislike many people have about contending with the world of dating, especially when

Working with couples separately might seem counterintuitive when challenges arise.   The dominant cultural narrative tells us that relationship problems require both partners in the same room with a therapist, working through issues together. But what if this approach actually reinforces the very dynamics that create u

Going back and forth between two relationships can feel like being trapped in an endless ping-pong match.   One moment you're certain about choosing your spouse, the next you're convinced your affair partner is the one. This exhausting cycle of changing your mind (sometimes within hours or even minutes) can leave you w

Maybe you're in the midst of an affair, paralyzed by guilt and uncertainty. Maybe you're losing sleep, watching your health decline, and feeling like there's no good way out.   Today, I want to share a remarkable story that might change how you see what's possible.   The guilt was unbearable. Michael couldn't sleep, hi

You're already making plans for tomorrow without knowing if the internet will crash, your dog will have an emergency, or an earthquake will hit.   You're creating your future every single day, despite life's fundamental uncertainty. Yet when it comes to your infidelity situation, you might be waiting for a crystal ball

Have you ever felt proud of yourself for telling the truth… only to later wonder if you should have approached it differently?   We often think of truth-telling as an absolute good - something that's always right and beneficial. But what if I told you that, sometimes, the truth we choose to tell isn't necessarily the m