Why Won't You Date Me? with Nicole Byer

Updated: 05 Sep 2025 • 414 episodes
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Love and dating can be messy—so let’s talk about it! On this multi-award-winning podcast, comedian Nicole Byer explores romantic highs, lows, and all the juicy stuff in between, alongside comedians, experts, and sometimes an ex or two. New episodes every Friday!

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Comedian, clown, and artist Jenson Titus (of @VeryGayPaint) tells Nicole what it was like to date someone who's in the process of transitioning. The experience made him realize he’s bi, and left him feeling “more queer” than ever. He talks about the challenges of having a "Very Gay" brand while dating a woman, launchin

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Olympic figure skater Adam Rippon (Winner of Dancing with the Stars) joins Nicole to share the dating life of a Olympian. He shares what it was like being one of the first openly gay U.S. Olympians, why the infamous Olympic condoms left him disappointed, and what the sex life in the Olympic Village is really like. He a

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Co-writers Dan Gregor and Doug Mand (The Naked Gun) have been writing partners for twenty years - which is basically a marriage at this point. They tell Nicole about the time they were "dumped" by Adam Pally, how they’ve kept a friendship and business alive without burning each other out, and the rabbi who completely r

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For Roz Hernandez, dating as a sober, trans woman comedian is a trifecta of difficulty - and finding love hasn’t been easy. She tells Nicole about going to 4 different Etsy psychics to sketch her future husband, using Grindr to find dates willing to explore haunted places, and the hookup stories that came from visiting

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International award-winning burlesque dancer Jessabelle Thunder joins Nicole to talk about why so many partners say they’re cool with burlesque - until they’re not. She shares how she transformed from a shy girl into a commanding headliner, the different styles of burlesque dancing, and the time she broke her ankle on

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Before she was an activist, Monica Lewinsky was the most publicly shamed woman in America. Now, she's reclaiming her story, and her dating life. For the 400th episode of Why Won’t You Date Me?, Monica joins Nicole to talk about dating after a major scandal, being labeled “unmatchable” on eHarmony, and learning to enjoy

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